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Goal: A Job That She Loves Waking Up to Every Day

August 15, 2016 by Wilma Jones

goal: a job she loves waking up to every day

I’m watching this YouTube show, “An African City,” when I should be working. (What did people do to waste time at work before the Internet? Yes, I know it’s the weekend, but I work almost every weekend, so it was taking away from my productivity. Not good. (But I digress.)

A couple of days ago while surfing the web I read on NY Times.com about this show focusing on 5 women in Ghana who were educated outside the continent and have returned to Africa. They characterized the show as a “Sex in the City for African Viewers.”

I won’t get into the whole things of “for African viewers.” Why the NY Times thinks the show would only appeal to African viewers is neither here nor there to me. Just shows the NY Times doesn’t understand.

I’m on episode 3 of season one and so far I like it. And I’m not African. While watching the episode opening, one line of dialogue really jumped out at me. The main character, Nana Yaa says in a voice over that “the modern girl wants to have it all. She wants a job that she loves waking up to every day.” She goes on to talk about finances, friends, boyfriends, sex and love. But it really jumped out to me that she wants a great job that she loves first.

I find that refreshing. It makes me smile to know that women are placing importance on their happiness in career as a primary requirement for their lives. When I was a younger woman, a lot of my friends and colleagues wanted their love lives to be straight and if their job wasn’t perfect, oh well that was ok.

The next stage we entertained was the illusion that we could “have it all.” Reality hit for me in the doom of divorce. Many joined me down that route. After working for over 30 years I realize that I should have first been focused on finding a career I loved and that excited me as a primary life requirement.

My primary requirements for my career when I was Nana’s age were 1) money, 2) potential to make more money, 3) something I was good at so I wouldn’t have to work too hard. Then a few years after my college graduation the national economy went into a recession. After that I just wanted a job.

Additional education and training lead me to a career that was pretty enjoyable where I got to travel, meet lots of people and make pretty decent money. But after years of mergers and acquisitions, RIFs and reorgs, things grew to be less enjoyable at the job. Processes, policies and people began to create more unhappiness in the cubicles.

I think it’s wonderful that the new generation entering the workforce is looking for careers that speak to their hearts and not just their pockets. I think that will lead to them feeling more fulfilled and happy in their career than my generation feels when we look back. That’s why so many of us are switching gears and starting now to pursue the things we love, too.

How about you. Is it important that you love what you do on the job?

Filed Under: Mindfulness Tagged With: an african city, loves waking up to her job, Mindfulness, Wilma jones, youtube

3 Reasons Professionals Working in Cubicles Should Start Practicing Mindfulness

August 10, 2016 by Wilma Jones

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Professionals in offices across the country are under more stress at work than they’ve ever experienced before. Twenty years ago professionals who were office workers had real offices. We had desks and doors that closed. We had a shared admin to handle the administrivia that drives us all crazy. These days…not so much anymore.

Now we work in cubicle farms, with row upon row of connected metal desks with fake walls and no doors. The processes and policies established to help us successfully perform our jobs often add more stress and irritation to our lives. They become hoops to jump through instead of supportive structures to help get things accomplished.

And the people. Let’s not forget about our coworkers who sometimes bring joy to our workday and on other occasions, they just seem to bring the pain. Sometimes we’re even a victim of micro-aggressions, those little things that people do, sometimes without even realizing it, that can offend and create divisions between colleagues on the job.

All of these people, process and policy concerns can create a less than optimal work environment. Sixty percent of American workers reported they liked their job in 1987, according to a survey by the Conference Board, a non-profit research firm. But by 2014 those numbers had flipped and over 52 percent of workers indicted unhappiness at the job.

Some leading-edge organizations are implementing wellness programs for their employees to help increase job satisfaction. But for the majority of American workers, you’re on your own to develop strategies to overcome the effects of unhappiness at your job. One component of wellness programs that delivers for a lot of people is mindfulness.

Mindfulness is simply learning to focus all your attention on the present moment. A mindfulness practice helps you develop awareness. It combines deep breathing with a process to clear your mind. Believe it or not, this simple practice can help to improve your workday and offer the following benefits:

1. Improve Health

A study at Northern Arizona University found that a regular mindfulness practice strengthens your immune system. Office workers who practice mindfulness use fewer sick leave days and experience less severe colds or maladies when they do feel ill.

2. Sharpen Focus

The act of clearing your mind during a few moments of mindfulness has been characterized as “swooshing all the clutter out” of our brains. It makes sense then that being mindful prior to meetings or working on a big project leads you to sharpen your focus and become less distracted by the thoughts that constantly pop into your mind.

3. Stress Relief

The biggest benefit of developing a mindfulness practice is that it reduces stress in just about everyone who sticks with it. A lot of times we stress ourselves out because we let thoughts distract us and have too much power over our actions and behaviors. Mindfulness helps you to recognize that it’s just a thought and to “swoosh it out” and keep things moving forward.

Have you thought about adding a mindfulness practice to better deal with job issues?

Filed Under: Mindfulness Tagged With: cubicle, Happiness at Work, Mindfulness, professional, unhappy at work

This Memorial Day Make Sure You’re Unplugged

May 30, 2016 by Wilma Jones

This memorial day make sure you're unplugged

This Memorial Day Make Sure You’re Unplugged

Today is the Memorial Day holiday in the U.S. It is the day we recognize and remember men and women who died in service to our country. It’s also a day off work. In almost every industry except for retail and a few others, office workers get Memorial Day day as a company -paid holiday.

Memorial Day is one of the big holidays. Even stingy companies give employees the day off on Memorial Day. You know those companies where you only get 6 company observed holidays per year? New Year’s Day, Memorial Day, Independence Day, Labor Day, Thanksgiving and Christmas. Yup, that’s it. President’s Day? Veteran’s Day? Martin Luther King, Jr. Day? Naw, those are work days at many companies.

Memorial Day is the unofficial start to the summer season for Americans, so it’s a holiday we hold close to our hearts. Barbecues, cookouts and trips to the beach are annual rites of passage to summer and this is the weekend those traditions begin. This is the weekend we should all unplug and step away from work. For these three days, don’t check your email. Each time a thought about something work-related enters your mind, brush it away and think about something else. Be mindful about it.

It’s critically important to take time away from your job to completely disconnect. There has been a lot of buzz this week about a new law proposed in France that would prohibit companies with 50 or more employees from emailing/communicating with employees after work hours, including weekends and holidays. It’s all about allowing staff to know that no digital communications would come from their boss at night so they can feel comfortable disengaging from their work responsibilities after hours.

I think this is an awesome idea, because many times we check mail at night to make sure nothing urgent is happening that will catch us off guard in the morning. No one wants to find out something critical happened and there is a string of email communication with everyone but you contributing to the conversation. I’ve felt that before and so I when I was working in corporate environments, I would routinely check mail a few times in the evening.

It would be a nice feeling to have work completely stop in the evening every day. To know that nothing would require your attention over the holiday weekend. For many office workers with corporate-issued cell phones that ping when emails are received or with instant messaging apps, that doesn’t happen. A law like the one being considered in France could go a long way toward encouraging that behavior.

Do you think we need a law to prohibit our bosses from contacting us during non-work hours?

Filed Under: Mindfulness Tagged With: Mindfulness, relax, unplugged, Work

Is Forest Bathing Another Way to be Mindful?

May 19, 2016 by Wilma Jones

Is Forest Bathing Another Way to be MindfulIs Forest Bathing Another Way to be Mindful?

The newest craze to travel from California to the rest of the country is Forest Bathing. Originating in Japan, this activity is referred to as a ‘fitness trend,’ but I think it’s another way to practice mindfulness. I understand that when you forest bathe, you are moving your body, but you’re also doing some powerful things to your brain.

A Washington Post article informs that “Americans spend 87 percent of their time indoors and 6 percent in an enclosed vehicle.” That’s kind of shameful, that we as a nation spend only 7 percent of our time outdoors. It probably contributes to the levels of obesity and poor health conditions in so many people, too.

Forest Bathing is when you go out into nature to slow down and purposefully enjoying the environment, the sounds, the smells and everything you can see. Studies completed on forest bathing, called ‘Shinrin-yoku’ document that the practice makes you healthier. We know that exercise – basic movement really, is what our body needs to function at a high level. It affects our body and our brain. It impacts our longevity. The interesting thing about forest bathing is that it takes the benefits of exercise and movement outdoors to a higher level. In Japan, Shinrin-yoku is considered a medicinal option and is covered by health insurance.

Increased energy, reduced stress and increased accuracy and creativity are all wonderful byproducts of movement outdoors. As pointed out in many blog posts on this website, you can begin to gain these benefits in as little as a 10 minute walk outside.

People who practiced forest bathing were compared to people who walked in an urban environment and the forest bathers results showed they had reduced stress levels, heart rate and blood pressure than the city walkers. Although we can’t go forest bathing in most of our cubicle farm positions, maybe trying to get into nature more after work and weekends would benefit us during the week at the office. If nothing else it would help to change our personal percentages and increase that 7 percent time outdoors to the double digits.

I’m thinking now of locations I could try to forest bathe in the Washington, DC metro area, where I am based. Maybe some areas of Rock Creek Park could qualify. Is forest bathing an option you might consider?

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: forest bathing, Mindfulness, movement, nature, outdoors, Shinrin-yoku

A Brilliant Strategy to Reduce Workplace Stress

May 16, 2016 by Wilma Jones

A Brilliant Strategy to Reduce Workplace Stress

The biggest benefit to using mindfulness at work is the potential for stress reduction. Workplace stress is real and it’s one of the primary reasons for employee turnover. Mindfulness instruction teaches breathing techniques and strategies for clearing your mind that help to reduce or eliminate stress. One of my favorite characterizations about mindfulness at work is that it helps to “clear out the cobwebs,” in our brain. That helps to improve focus.

Mindfulness helps you to stay in the moment and remember that whatever you’re going through will pass. Then I usually try to throw in a little gratefulness. I’m always thankful that whatever happened to stress me out wasn’t even worse. I know that’s probably a negative way to look at it, but it really works for me. Because it’s the truth. Whatever happens to you, things can always be worse. That’s my way to find the positive in it.

Mindfulness also helps me to find another Living Happier at Work program pillar – kindness. It’s important to be kind to me, no matter what I am going through. As I go through the finishing touches of my new book, “Is It Monday Already?” I am finding how critical both mindfulness and kindness are to all the facets of living with positivity. So many of the tips for living happier at work incorporate both those life tools.

Mindfulness also helps you develop courage. In order to make the changes to live happier at work, you have to have enough courage to make the small changes consistently. Then you’ll develop the chops to take bigger steps because you’ll see the effect on your life.

Mindfulness allows you become the master of your brain because you begin to really control your thoughts. The reason we feel stressed is usually because of fear and loss of control. So it makes sense that a strategy that helps you regain control would help reduce stress.

One of my favorite quotes that sums it all up perfectly:

Watch Your Thoughts quote

 

Filed Under: Mindfulness Tagged With: courage, Mindfulness, workplace stress

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