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It’s Real Folks. 1 Horrifying Example Of Hateration At The Office

August 22, 2016 by Wilma Jones

It’s Real Folks. 1 Horrifying Example Of Hateration At The Office

Let’s say you work for one of the big communications companies in the U.S. You’re one of thousands of hard-working professionals keeping dial tones humming and great throughput on connections to the cloud for millions of customers every day. But when you go in the office one day this is what greets you:

noose hanging in cubicle

Unless you’ve been hanging out under a rock for the past year, the climate in our country is getting a little heated. And I don’t just mean the temperature. Naw, walking into your cubicle and seeing a dang noose hanging from the drop ceiling is more than a bit scary.

Yet, this is exactly what happened a couple of weeks ago at an AT&T office building in downtown St. Louis. It turns out it was an office of contractors from Ericcson. The company blamed it on an “international contractor” who didn’t understand the “disturbing racial and cultural implications a noose has here in the US.”

That response makes me think, “really?!” Excuse me, but anyone from any country who has been living in the US for the past year would be aware of the cultural implications of a noose or a host of other racist symbols.This happened in St Louis. Anyone familiar with Ferguson, MO? I don’t believe for one moment that someone who lives in region of the country that has been a hotbed of racial tension for months was unaware of the implication of hanging a noose in a coworker’s cubicle. Someone who thinks it’s okay to play this type of joke at the job has issues.

I am glad to know the person was fired. That was the right thing to do. At a minimum, this was another disturbing example of the absence of consideration and tolerance in US workplaces. Your thoughts?

 

 

 

 

 

Filed Under: Mindfulness Tagged With: cubicle hate, Happiness at Work, hateration, Mindfulness, Work Life Balance

Goal: A Job That She Loves Waking Up to Every Day

August 15, 2016 by Wilma Jones

goal: a job she loves waking up to every day

I’m watching this YouTube show, “An African City,” when I should be working. (What did people do to waste time at work before the Internet? Yes, I know it’s the weekend, but I work almost every weekend, so it was taking away from my productivity. Not good. (But I digress.)

A couple of days ago while surfing the web I read on NY Times.com about this show focusing on 5 women in Ghana who were educated outside the continent and have returned to Africa. They characterized the show as a “Sex in the City for African Viewers.”

I won’t get into the whole things of “for African viewers.” Why the NY Times thinks the show would only appeal to African viewers is neither here nor there to me. Just shows the NY Times doesn’t understand.

I’m on episode 3 of season one and so far I like it. And I’m not African. While watching the episode opening, one line of dialogue really jumped out at me. The main character, Nana Yaa says in a voice over that “the modern girl wants to have it all. She wants a job that she loves waking up to every day.” She goes on to talk about finances, friends, boyfriends, sex and love. But it really jumped out to me that she wants a great job that she loves first.

I find that refreshing. It makes me smile to know that women are placing importance on their happiness in career as a primary requirement for their lives. When I was a younger woman, a lot of my friends and colleagues wanted their love lives to be straight and if their job wasn’t perfect, oh well that was ok.

The next stage we entertained was the illusion that we could “have it all.” Reality hit for me in the doom of divorce. Many joined me down that route. After working for over 30 years I realize that I should have first been focused on finding a career I loved and that excited me as a primary life requirement.

My primary requirements for my career when I was Nana’s age were 1) money, 2) potential to make more money, 3) something I was good at so I wouldn’t have to work too hard. Then a few years after my college graduation the national economy went into a recession. After that I just wanted a job.

Additional education and training lead me to a career that was pretty enjoyable where I got to travel, meet lots of people and make pretty decent money. But after years of mergers and acquisitions, RIFs and reorgs, things grew to be less enjoyable at the job. Processes, policies and people began to create more unhappiness in the cubicles.

I think it’s wonderful that the new generation entering the workforce is looking for careers that speak to their hearts and not just their pockets. I think that will lead to them feeling more fulfilled and happy in their career than my generation feels when we look back. That’s why so many of us are switching gears and starting now to pursue the things we love, too.

How about you. Is it important that you love what you do on the job?

Filed Under: Mindfulness Tagged With: an african city, loves waking up to her job, Mindfulness, Wilma jones, youtube

3 Reasons Professionals Working in Cubicles Should Start Practicing Mindfulness

August 10, 2016 by Wilma Jones

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Professionals in offices across the country are under more stress at work than they’ve ever experienced before. Twenty years ago professionals who were office workers had real offices. We had desks and doors that closed. We had a shared admin to handle the administrivia that drives us all crazy. These days…not so much anymore.

Now we work in cubicle farms, with row upon row of connected metal desks with fake walls and no doors. The processes and policies established to help us successfully perform our jobs often add more stress and irritation to our lives. They become hoops to jump through instead of supportive structures to help get things accomplished.

And the people. Let’s not forget about our coworkers who sometimes bring joy to our workday and on other occasions, they just seem to bring the pain. Sometimes we’re even a victim of micro-aggressions, those little things that people do, sometimes without even realizing it, that can offend and create divisions between colleagues on the job.

All of these people, process and policy concerns can create a less than optimal work environment. Sixty percent of American workers reported they liked their job in 1987, according to a survey by the Conference Board, a non-profit research firm. But by 2014 those numbers had flipped and over 52 percent of workers indicted unhappiness at the job.

Some leading-edge organizations are implementing wellness programs for their employees to help increase job satisfaction. But for the majority of American workers, you’re on your own to develop strategies to overcome the effects of unhappiness at your job. One component of wellness programs that delivers for a lot of people is mindfulness.

Mindfulness is simply learning to focus all your attention on the present moment. A mindfulness practice helps you develop awareness. It combines deep breathing with a process to clear your mind. Believe it or not, this simple practice can help to improve your workday and offer the following benefits:

1. Improve Health

A study at Northern Arizona University found that a regular mindfulness practice strengthens your immune system. Office workers who practice mindfulness use fewer sick leave days and experience less severe colds or maladies when they do feel ill.

2. Sharpen Focus

The act of clearing your mind during a few moments of mindfulness has been characterized as “swooshing all the clutter out” of our brains. It makes sense then that being mindful prior to meetings or working on a big project leads you to sharpen your focus and become less distracted by the thoughts that constantly pop into your mind.

3. Stress Relief

The biggest benefit of developing a mindfulness practice is that it reduces stress in just about everyone who sticks with it. A lot of times we stress ourselves out because we let thoughts distract us and have too much power over our actions and behaviors. Mindfulness helps you to recognize that it’s just a thought and to “swoosh it out” and keep things moving forward.

Have you thought about adding a mindfulness practice to better deal with job issues?

Filed Under: Mindfulness Tagged With: cubicle, Happiness at Work, Mindfulness, professional, unhappy at work

3 Brilliant Reasons to Add Mindfulness to Your Life

August 1, 2016 by Wilma Jones

image 3 Brilliant Reasons to Add Mindfulness to Your Life

By now you’ve probably heard about people practicing mindfulness on the job. Thus far you’re not ready to give it a try yet. If you’re wondering what could be in it for you, let me give you a list of my top three reasons for using mindfulness when I was working the day job in an awful cubicle environment.

Reason #1: Focus on the Present

That meeting with the people you don’t particularly like is scheduled for this afternoon, but you start thinking about it as soon as you wake up. And it begins to cloud your day before you even begin the commute.

Practicing mindfulness helps you to overcome those tendencies as you develop your thought muscles to focus on the present moment only. It takes just a bit of time and practice, but eventually when a thought enters your mind you will automatically have it float right out as you regain focus.

This helps reduce stress and helps ensure appropriate level of cortisol in your body. Research has proven high levels of cortisol over time contribute to poor health outcomes like high blood pressure, blood sugar imbalances and lower immunity.

Reason #2: Helps You Master Your Attention

Scientists have proven that the ability to manage your attention is like a muscle. The more you work on managing and paying attention, the better you get at it.

Being able to be attentive means you’re a better listener and a better leader. Mastering your attention leads to better self-regulation and more effective decision-making capabilities.

Reason #3: Reduce Reactiveness

Learning to manage your thoughts and become more mindful gives you the ability to reduce being reactive. I remember when I used to think people could “make me mad.” If you feel like that about a person or situation, then you are being emotionally reactive. No one or thing can truly make you mad.

Learning mindfulness helps you better manage your emotions, or as the scientists refer to it, ” enhancing your emotional regulation.” Basically it means you can control yourself even when people pluck your last nerve.

Not sure about you, but as a person who used to waste time being mindless and just letting any old thoughts and issues take up space in my brain, learning to be mindful has been amazing. Learning to deep breathe and control my brain and body rather than have outside influences impact me has made me healthier, happier and more courageous.

If you want to take a 3 minute mindfulness break, click HERE.

Filed Under: Mindfulness

Workplace Stress: The #1 Amazingly Simple Tool to Fight It

June 27, 2016 by Wilma Jones

workplace stressWorkplace Stress:
The #1 Amazingly Simple Tool to Fight It

The primary source of stress for American adults is our job. Depending upon the source, estimates range from a high of 80 percent to a low of 65 percent of workers reporting feeling stressed at the job. A study by the National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health cited 40 percent of respondents felt their job was “very or extremely stressful.” Over one quarter of the survey respondents feel their job is the number one source of stress in their lives.

People feel stressed at the job for a variety of reasons but the primary culprit is workload. Simply put, we are doing more work with fewer people. Many people can relate to workload issues because this problem is not specific to any one industry. Organization leadership gives workers more responsibility with less authority. As a result we feel constrained in our ability to get the job completed without lots of policies and process issues. Escalation to senior management is needed to get issues resolved, which creates delays and backlogs.

Another big source of job stress is the people we work with. It’s a fact of life that conflict between people exists in every organization. Sheesh, it exists in our families so you know there is no way to avoid conflict on the job! Between dealing with people’s personalities and quirks, the third primary source of work stress is finding the  work/life balance that fits your family.

Alright, so stress is a big issue and it affects a lot of people. But it’s not just on a personal level. Stress costs big dollars to businesses. Fairleigh Dickinson University estimates that “workplace stress costs U.S. employers an estimated $200 billion per year in absenteeism, lower productivity, staff turnover, workers’ compensation, medical insurance and other stress-related expenses.”

There are lots of suggestions and strategies experts have provided to help us combat work stress. Many of them deal with prioritizing your day and learning to control our responses to work aggravations, which are excellent suggestions for relieving stress.

One solution that is often overlooked or downplayed that should be moved to the top of the list is breathing. Yes, deep breathing is a simple but super-effective solution to helping workers overcome the effects of workplace stress.

It’s a fact that deep breathing changes the ph of your blood. Deep breathing has been proven to lower your blood pressure, heart rate and stress hormone levels in our body. It lowers the levels of lactic acid in your muscles. Deep breathing strengthens the immune system and increases your energy level while giving you a sense of calmness.

So you’re thinking this all sounds good, but it’s not realistic to try to incorporate deep breathing sessions into your day. I get you. I am busy just like you and I found myself only stopping to breathe deeply when something totally irritated me. Like when I was thinking in the back of mind what I’d really like to say about something.

I knew I needed to go take a quick walk or do something to lower my stress. But sometimes that isn’t possible.

I discovered a smart phone app that helps me to add 3-4 deep breathing breaks into my day and I’m loving it. The Hear and Now app is available on the App Store. It uses the phone flash to measure your blood flow. I put my headphones on and listen to the calming music. The app measures my heart rate and breathing quality by evaluating the pulse changes in the blood flowing through the veins in my finger. Then the short breathing exercise begins. I captured a few screen shots of the process for you:

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It’s really simple to use. However, when you first start you’ll be surprised by how shallow you are breathing. Especially if you’re a little pissed off when you start the exercise. Over a 3 week period I experienced a big difference in my ability to breathe deeply as reported by the results. But more importantly, the notifications remind me to take just a few moments every day to focus on breathing – more often and more deeply.

This app is an easy way to start incorporating a bit more mindfulness to your day. Would you use a smart phone app to add more mindfulness to your workday?

Filed Under: Mindfulness Tagged With: breathing, deep breathing, hear and now app, stress, workplace stress

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